HOW TO BE INDEPENDENT

HOW TO BE INDEPENDENT 

In this world we live and die alone, we are born alone and eventually die alone. This has been my mantra for a while and according to me it is the best one can ever have.

I am currently struggling with loneliness and depression. I always have this routine of getting into relationships that would destroy my progress and eventually part of me dies because I end up loving the other person more than I love myself.

So, being alone has taught me to love myself more than the other person. Although the loneliness is slowly consuming me I like to think it makes me stronger. Independent is key in this life.

Something I have been searching for all my life. The fact that I dont have to run my problems through other people and face ridicule and bitterness from my opposite partner.

I see it that it is building my resilience in fact it is more of a gift. The peace of mind I have right now is priceless. I usually say that in my house only me is allowed to enter and I do not need anyone to come and rescue me.

Let me be forged in fire and make my mind sharper by myself. It has made me to force to love myself and put myself priority over others. I have been able to focus on myself by working on myself so much like going to Therapy or just showing up to work. Without an external force.

Although they mean well. I've realised that motivation comes from within. Whenever you're facing challenges, you have only yourself to produce solutions and that is how you grow mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically.

I don't have friends and I am okay with that, it shows that I don't have to rely on a distant friend to come and rescue me. The reality is nobody is coming to rescue you, only you who can do that for yourself.

"If you're lonely when you are alone, you're in bad company" 

-Jean-Paul Strate